At Phinity Therapy we offer a form of divorce therapy called Uncoupling Therapy. This was developed by us and is based on the work of Dr. Sue Johnson, a clinical psychologist who developed a form of couples counselling called Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and the work of marriage and family therapist, Katherine Woodward Thomas who coined the term ‘Conscious uncoupling’.
This dynamic therapy is a mindful and intentional approach to ending a romantic relationship or marriage with kindness toward one another. It posits that when a relationship ends, it can happen without drama and pain, which are all too common during breakups. This therapy has proven that instead of blaming each other and becoming adversaries, couples can work together to end the relationship in a respectful and compassionate way.
Our relationship counsellors offer a safe, supportive, non-judgmental, and caring space to help you and your partner find your way through the difficulties you are both facing. We do this by listening to you and attempting to understand both positions.
The process of therapy will involve:
We recommend that the first session be a longer one (75 minutes) than the usual session length of 50 minutes, or that you each have an individual 50-minute session. This helps the course of therapy as we can get to know you individually and understand your perspectives in greater detail before progressing to joint work. Weekly therapy sessions of 50 minutes are the norm but depend on the issues and goals.
As with any therapy, it is hard work and requires the maximum commitment and engagement of both partners. Uncoupling therapy may reveal that separation is the best outcome, which one partner may not want. If this happens, we will be here to guide you through the separation and grief process and attempt to help you support one another.
Uncoupling Therapy aims to minimize the emotional pain and trauma often associated with the end of a relationship and to establish a healthy, respectful, and positive new dynamic so individuals can work together and also come to less emotionally and financially costly ways of handling practical concerns, when dividing up assets and responsibilities, for example.
Uncoupling therapy can help partners traverse many kinds of issues at a time when communication is very likely at its most difficult. It can facilitate the ability to trust and be open enough to communicate more effectively and learn how to understand and support one another through challenges, and practical problems as well. This novel way of ending a relationship can offer fuller acceptance, less harm, and closure.
It’s normal to feel angry sometimes, and it should be said that anger in and of itself is not a ‘negative’ or ‘bad’ emotion, it has its purpose. If however, it’s impacting your life in a negative way then it may be useful to learn about the help available.
Bereavement is a time and state of mourning and grief when we experience deep loss. It is a natural, inevitable, and often very painful part of life, which occurs in response to the deprivation of someone or something. When we process loss, we experience grief on multiple levels, including mentally, physically, socially, and emotionally. Emotional responses include anxiety, guilt, anger, sadness, and despair.
Life is challenging, so it’s normal to feel low at times. If however, you’re feeling sad, apathetic, and hopeless for a prolonged period, you may be depressed, and this impacts functioning. And although depression is a natural response to difficulties, it can be treated.
As of the time of writing, the rate of divorce in the UK is 42%. There are several reasons for this, with attitudes towards divorce shifting, such that some people even have ‘divorce parties’ But separation and divorce can be challenging.
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